Dating to fast

I'm a 19-year-old guy, entering my third year of college.When I finished high school, I felt led by God to commit to not date for two years and to spend that time growing closer to Him.

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That remains my only significant experience with dating fasts.

I did meet a second-year missionary who was engaged, though.

) If you want to slow things down without cooling off completely, there are a few things you can do.

First, everyone is aware of the certain ‘steps’ involved in progressing a relationship, and one way to slow down the fast moving relationship train is to take your time with these. ), or spending the night on a weeknight, or going to work parties—these are all things you can avoid either casually or by saying something more direct about not being ready for that.

Lisa Cotter wrote a post for the FOCUS blog describing the dating fast and how it can help first-year missionaries.

Sarah Vielma wrote about joining FOCUS despite needing to pause her existing relationship to take on the dating fast, so it’s more than just a simple “no dates” ban. One female friend of mine was excited to interview to become a FOCUS missionary specifically because of the dating fast. To this, I replied that she didn’t to become a missionary just for the dating fast.

While you might be feeling stressed or panicked, if you can take a beat, you’ll see that the person who is possibly rushing you is likely doing it with good, pure intentions.

**Side note, if this is not the case and you’re feeling pressured into anything you’re not comfortable with, put that pretty foot down now and acknowledge that behavior head-on.

In relationships it really is true that patterns develop early on and if you don’t want this to be one, nip it in the bud, or bid that bud farewell.

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